Tag: relationships

• [repost] “He Asked Permission to Touch, but Not to Ghost” (Sender)

  The sad, true story of a young woman who has not grown up to understand the boundaries of free sex through websites like Tinder. I found this article to be both sad and horrific… Dear Ms. Sender: Unfortunately, sexual consent doesn’t have anything to do with care because “free” sex has nothing to do with…

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  November 4, 2018

  interesting stuff, link, random writing, thought piece

  care, commitment, consensual, consent, culture, dating, expectations, free sex, ghosting, intimacy, long-term love, marriage, modern dating, relationships, sex, sex culture, tinder

• I expect you may not be aware of it, but the anti-bullying psychology, created by left-thinking university psychology professors, is the ultimate in political correctness, turning every one of us into a potential bully or victim, or, to use your preferred language, oppressor or oppressed. Thanks to the successful political activism of the anti-bullying field, schools are now required to function as totalitarian police establishments responsible for children’s interpersonal relationships 24/7. School staff need to do double duty as security guards, detectives and judges, treating any complaint of subjective harm as a serious crime needing thorough investigation, interrogation, adjudication, reporting and punishing. Rather than eliminating bullying, these laws have led to a growing epidemic of bullying and intensified hostilities among students, parents, teachers and administrators. Today is the most stressful time in history to be a school administrator, as they can face lawsuits for failing to accomplish the impossible (research has shown that the most highly regarded anti-bullying programs barely cause a dent in the problem, yet schools are supposed to know how to get stop all children from being bullied.) Just today, the news reported that a Pennsylvania court awarded a student $500,000 dollars (link is external) because the school district could not stop fellow students from ridiculing her “gender-nonconformist presentation” – in all three schools she attended! Half a million dollars! American dollars, not Canadian! For a mere $500, I could have taught the girl how to stop being bullied, but now we, the taxpayers, have to fork out half-a-million bucks because schools can’t force all children to respect nonconformist gender presentation. In actuality, the schools’ attempts to stop the bullying made the bullying escalate.

  -Kalman, The Two “Fatal Flaws Lurking in American Leftist Politics”

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  July 29, 2018

  culture, interesting stuff, quote

  advice, bullying, life, media, opinion, relationships

• [posting][poetry] Sonnet I

  

  These chains of thought which bind my heart to thine (Yes, I am captive of your Siren’s heart) Hold bitter dreams of love ne’er to be mine And broken hopes of two lives kept apart. This slavery of soul, unbeknownst to you, Restricts my path and turns my eyes away From all that lies before…

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  March 30, 2018

  literature, original fiction, random writing

  inspiration, life, love, poetry, relationships, sonnet

• [YT] Same Parents (Enigma)

  A great song which reminds us why we should first pursue what binds us all together before dwelling on what makes us different from each other.

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  March 26, 2018

  music, video

  culture, enigma, family, history, inspiration, music, relationships, society, togetherness, video

• “Our desiring model – our romantic theology – has emphasized that we are creatures who love first and foremost. The most basic way that we intend the world is on the affective order of love. This love constitutes our fundamental and governing orientation to the world. As such, our love is always ultimately aimed at a telos, a picture of the good life that pulls us toward it, thus shaping our actions and behavior. This orientation is something that comes before thinking; thus we’ve described it as precognitive. It is more at work at the level of the adaptive unconsciousness or the “social imaginary”. Our love is aimed from the fulcrum of our desire – the habits that constitute our character, or core identity. And the way our love or desire gets aimed in specific directions is through practices that shape, mold, and direct our love.”

  -James K. A. Smith, Desiring the Kingdom: Worship, Worldview, and Cultural Formation, 80.

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  March 24, 2018

  nonfiction, quote

  Christianity, cultural formation, culture, desire, ideas, love, prayer, relationships, social imaginary, society, worldview, worship

• [article/posting response] Woman Realizes That She’s Been Accidentally Abusing Her Husband This Whole Time…

  

  “If he’s confident with himself and who he is, he’ll come to resent you. If he’s at all unsure about himself, he’ll start to believe you, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Neither one is a desirable, beneficial outcome to you, him or the marriage.” What happens when wives become moms to their husbands and…

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  March 20, 2018

  nonfiction, thought piece

  abuse, competency, confidence, jordan peterson, men, opinion, relationships, romance, women